Why I Didn’t Social Media Christmas….

Christmas! Has it really come and gone already? This holiday season has been a whirlwind and its taken me until now, at 11:34 p.m. to feel about fifty percent recovered. But I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy every single moment of it….I am currently listening to Ledisi’s Christmas album on repeat so I can soak it all up before the new year gets here. Yes, it is that serious. This year was the first year that I didn’t social media Christmas…save for a few snaps that weren’t even that good of the morning, I was completely hands off. Every single year since I’ve had kids, I take a MILLION pictures of everyone opening presents, reactions, food shots, the aftermath, everyone sleeping on the couch 10 minutes after breakfast and then I rush to upload them so the world can see what an AWESOME Christmas we had. I didn’t even send any text or post the customary “Merry Christmas” Facebook status. This year, I did absolutely nothing and I was pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

For some time now, I have become more and more wary of social media, Facebook in particular. Everyone on there seems to be vying for attention or complaining about the world (myself included) and it is honestly draining. It’s soul sucking to sit there scrolling for minutes on end filling my brain with endless complaints, nonsensical post or a ridiculous amount of very strange cats. This year, I just really couldn’t be bothered. I didn’t force the kids to come stand with Will and I by the tree and smile for 63 pictures in a row nor did I whip out my phone to snap a photo of every single moment. There are no photos of breakfast, there are no cleverly edited post-gift opening shots. Nada. The only hint that we had a Christmas at all are the random pictures I took throughout the day on my brand new Canon (thank you hubby) and most of those are repetitive portrait shots of my very tolerant family because hey, I’m a photographer now. I was able to enjoy every single moment this year and although I do kinda wish I managed to record Brooklynn opening her LOL Dolls and saying, “OMG, no. you. did. NOT,” I will always have that memory. And it was so much nicer to see it and hear it in the moment rather than come across it later as I obsessed over which shots were good enough for the gram. I can’t tell you how many times I have missed a beautiful moment because I was seeing the world through a camera lens. This year, I shed that lens and listen, the world is beautiful out here. No pressure, no worries about getting my post up in enough time or remembering to tag everyone and write out just the right status to accompany my 92 picture post. I mean really, what the hell was I doing?

So this year, I made an effort to enjoy every moment that I could. I saw my kids opening their approximately 1,980,328 gifts, I heard their shrieks of disbelief and felt their laughter reverberate through me. I tore into my crab legs like Sirius Black after he escaped Azkaban and washed them down with several cups of Peach Schnapps (thanks Santa). None of it was clouded with expectation or a flurry of snap shots or the reheating of my plate because it took me 25 minutes to find the right filter to perfectly convey the beautiful orange color of those crab legs. This year, I ate my food hot and hell if I knew or cared where my cell phone was.

I think as 2018 approaches, I will give it my best effort to be more present. To put my phone down more and take in everything around me. I want to experience every little detail, and even though pictures capture the moment, I’ll be the only one that can tell the story. I’ll let my mind be 2018’s photo. Cheers to an exciting New Year!! And now I leave you with this very adorable photo of my kids because lest us not forget, I am a photographer now. Never mind the fact that I only know how to work exactly one setting on this damn camera (or the fact that this photo was actually taken on Snapchat), but I am pretty sure I read somewhere that simply owning one qualifies you as a photographer.

Until next time, keep smiling. 


authors two kids on Christmas Eve

 photo signature_zpseve40n43.pngDigiprove sealCopyright protected by Digiprove © 2017


  1. floweringink | 28th Dec 17

    This is a beautiful and thoughtful post; it sounds like you had an amazing holiday and your kids are so gorgeous and happy. I look forward to reading more of your blog next year. Happy New Year!

    • rudymariee | 28th Dec 17

      Thank you!! I hope you had an amazing Christmas! ✨✨✨

  2. thelupiemomma | 28th Dec 17

    🙂 I’m glad you were able to unplug more or less this Christmas.

    I too found less than my usual amount of pictures post-Christmas festivities, but I blame everyone, myself included having some nasty cough/cold.

    I do agree that Facebook and even really Twitter for that matter are very… annoying at times. I quite literally unfollowed everyone who posted non-stop political or racism stuff. I even went as far as purposely bombing everyone’s feeds with puppies and Christmas memes because that’s how tired I was of seeing that stuff and wanted to make a point.

    I keep saying I’m going to delete it. Or minimize my time on them, but have yet to follow through. Sometimes that’s all one feels like doing in the wee hours of restless nights.

    Here’s to 2018 with less Facebook and Twitter and carefully filtered pictures and more writing 🙂

    • rudymariee | 28th Dec 17

      Yes I agree, Twitter, although less invasive than Facebook, can definitely be annoying and draining. That’s an outlet people go to where they really exercise their right to say whatever pops into their minds. It gets crazy and I find myself taking many breaks from scrolling. It’s hard to pull yourself from social media; as you said, what else is there to do at 3am when sleep is no where in sight?! I really want to put more effort into staying off social media and instead channel that energy into my writing or even reading more books. Cheers to a New Year with more personable encounters and way more writing. Thanks so much for reading!! ✨

  3. righteousbruin9 | 28th Dec 17

    Your take on Christmas seems far deeper, more substantial than many I read, over the holiday weekend. Your children radiate joy!

    • rudymariee | 28th Dec 17

      Thank you! I always think of Christmas as way more than the superficial. I appreciate your comment! ✨

  4. overthehillontheyellowbrickroad | 28th Dec 17

    Here’s to a year filled with precious moments in real time.

    • rudymariee | 28th Dec 17

      Hear hear! ☺️

  5. sharonchyy | 29th Dec 17

    Hey dear👋Hope your doing great 👍 Like This post❤️Thought l’m the only person who feel the same way about Facebook 😀 Look at them 👫Alike adorable kids! Keep enjoying your holidays ✌️

    • rudymariee | 30th Dec 17

      Thanks so much! Hope you’re having an amazing holiday. 🌸🌸🌸

      • sharonchyy | 30th Dec 17

        You are welcome as always and o yea! Thanks dear✌️

  6. Understand546 | 30th Dec 17

    This was a lovely post

    • rudymariee | 30th Dec 17

      Thank you!

  7. Roshonda N. Blackmon | 3rd Jan 18

    First let me say, I absolutely love Ledisi’s Christmas album – I don’t own it (yet…lol) but I have it on Pandora. I was telling my sister about it over the holidays for like the second time in the last two christmas’s. I love what you said about social media and you’re right it does seem like everyone is vying for attention or full of complaints or showing off something or someone. I only go on FB if I need too, otherwise I schedule things that I want to post there because you’re right again, once you scroll and look at one thing – next thing you know I’ve been sitting there for about 2 hours (just scrolling), time that I could have used to write a blog or do something more productive. Great Post and I wish you a new year only filled with things “you” want to do because everything doesn’t need our attention nor energy….

    • rudymariee | 4th Jan 18

      Isn’t her Christmas album amazing?! I have heard many a version of A Wonderful World but her version gives me literal goosebumps. I am all too often guilty of spending too much time on Facebook. My resolution this year is to spend far less time on social media in general. I am going to attempt to fill the time I usually spend on there by reading more books and engaging in actual conversation. I hope you are enjoying your new year so far and had a wonderful Christmas!

      • Roshonda N. Blackmon | 5th Jan 18

        Yessss, her album is the bomb…I’m actually going to purchase it this year…lol. All the songs are heart wrenching! Yes, that’s the plan as well for me, putting that extra time into doing something positive, this year I’m all about protecting my energy and putting it towards things that matter and help improve me, if that makes sense. I wish you a very happy New Year dear, I know it’s going to be a good one. xoxo =)

      • Roshonda N. Blackmon | 5th Jan 18

        Yes, I. Actually going to purchase her album this year…lol. I don’t blame you, Social media takes so much of our energy and Ibe told myself that I’m protecting my energy thos year by putting it on and towards things that will help build me and not break me. Wishing you and your family a very blessed and prosperous year!

  8. Roshonda N. Blackmon | 3rd Jan 18

    Oh btw, your kids are so cute – beautiful Pic!!

    • rudymariee | 4th Jan 18

      Thank you! I think so too. 😉

Leave A Comment

Leave a Reply