Someone close to me told me, “I feel like your life has no purpose.” As you can imagine, I was surprised and angry. How can someone else tell me that my life has no purpose? Why does their idea of a purposeful life have to align with my own? As I tried to defend myself, this person added on, “Without your kids, what purpose would your life have? What reason would you have to wake up in the morning?”
I never thought that I would have to explain to someone why my life has meaning. Yes, my kids are my life and they always will be. When they are old and gray, my universe will center around them….but they are not my entire life. The reason I wake up every morning? Me. I am that reason. And that is all the reason anybody needs. That reason alone makes your life “purposeful.” I am important enough that I am the only reason I need to open my eyes every morning. Without them, I am still me.
I just cannot understand why people have to place their ideals on everyone else. Your version of success isn’t necessarily what others view as successful. I have a wonderful husband, incredible kids and I am in love with my life. If I died right this minute, I would not feel like I hadn’t taken advantage of my time here. Sure, there are goals I have set for myself and there are a myriad of things I have yet to accomplish. But those are material things that are just nice to have….they are an added bonus. Accolades, recognitions and the like are not what add meaning to my life….love, family and the ability to enjoy every single moment…that is what gives my life purpose and above all else…I am happy.
What brings meaning to your life? Has anyone ever tried to force their views of a successful life on you? Anyone ever made you feel bad for your decisions?
Until next time…keep smiling.
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